Groom Picks Out Scandalous and Revealing Bridesmaid Dress for Maid of Honor, Designed to Make Her Stand Out: 'You're the hot sister'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Nov 12, 2024 5:00 PM EST

Welcome, internet-surfing sisters. Being guilted into wearing a bridesmaid dress that you hate is a rite of passage. Whether the dress is simply a color, pattern, or style that you would not willingly choose to wear, or it is actually, objectively unflattering, part of being a bridesmaid is putting up with it for one night for the sake of the bride. After all, wouldn't you want your bridesmaids to do the same for you? 

In our story today, a woman is left speechless when her soon-to-be brother-in-law reveals the dress he has picked out for her to wear. The dress is different from the other bridesmaids' dresses, designed to make her stand out from the rest as the Maid of Honor. The problem is that the dress is so scandalous and revealing that it might make it seem like she is trying to steal the spotlight from the bride. On top of that, the groom himself picked the dress out — leaving a weird, bad taste our protagonist's mouth. Get a detailed description of the dress in question down below!

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  • 01
    r/AITAH u/Additional_Word4245.1d AITA for thinking of telling my sister about the bridesmaid dress her fiancé picked out for me?
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    Throwaway account Hi everyone, I'm Mona (23F), and my sister Lily (28F) is getting married soon to her fiancé, Luca (31M) (names changed for obvious reasons). I'm super proud to be her maid of honor, and I'm so excited to support her. Lily and Luca are both very into non-traditional ideas and have gone all out to make this wedding unique. It's been quite tricky to help them plan out things and not let their ideas run too wild, but I was still super excited.
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    For food for example, they've hired a street food truck that will serve fusion tacos, sushi rolls, and mini hamburgers and the reception will be set up with lounge-style seating rather than formal tables. They even swapped out the usual wedding cake for a dessert tower filled with colorful macarons and cake pops. The whole wedding feels more like an avant-garde celebration than a traditional ceremony, which honestly sounds pretty cool-but it also means there's a lot of room for surprises.
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    The tricky part comes as for one, they decided to completely switch up the traditional roles in wedding planning: Luca would pick out the bridesmaids' dresses, while Lily is choosing the groomsmen's outfits. They wanted to "challenge expectations," as they put it, and thought it would be fun for each of them to be surprised by what the other chose.
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    When Luca announced that the bridesmaids' dresses would be pink, I wasn't really surprised since it's Lily's favourite colour. I figured he'd pick something nice and elegant. However, when I saw the dress he chose for me, I was completely taken aback.
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    The dress is this soft, satin pink and it's styled to make me "stand out" from the other bridesmaids since I'm the maid of honor. While the other bridesmaids' dresses are fitted but fairly modest, mine is far from modest. It's form-fitting, with a daringly high slit that reaches well up the thigh and a strapless, fitted bodice with pleated details that draw attention to my chest. The back is low and swoops down just above the waist, and the fabric clings to every curve in a way that leaves littl
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    It's a stunning dress, but it feels more appropriate for a red-carpet event than a wedding. Given that I'm Lily's younger sister and the maid of honor, this dress really makes me stand out, almost like I'm competing for attention. Lily usually jokingly introduces me to her friends as her 'hot' sister, which always made me feel a bit awkward, but this dress seems designed to highlight that.
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    I decided to bring it up with Luca, expressing that I felt the dress might be a bit much for a wedding. I told him it's really revealing, and I'm not sure if Lily would be comfortable with me wearing this in front of everyone. But he just brushed me off with a laugh and said that Lily would want me to stand out as her maid of honor.
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    He also said the dress matches the "vision" they have for the wedding and that the bridesmaids' look should be "memorable." I tried pressing a bit more, but he kept reassuring me that I should trust him.
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    Now I'm torn. The other bridesmaids' dresses, while also pink, are nowhere near as revealing as mine so I feel singled out in a way that's a bit uncomfortable. The other bridemaids think I should just go with it, but I'm not sure how Lily will feel if she sees me in this dress on her wedding day. I'm debating whether to break the surprise and tell her, or if I'm overthinking and should just wear the dress Luca picked.
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  • 11
    So... AITA for considering telling my sister about the dress her fiancé chose for me? 1,104 316 D D
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    Mother Search3350 • 1d If you can't talk to your sister, talk to your mother. Show her the dress and ask her to talk some sense into him Reply 2.6k
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    SoMoistlyMoist • 1d This is exactly what I was going to suggest, Op needs to address it with her mother and get some advice here. 684
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    seaturtle541 • 1d Show it to his mother. It sounds like the dress makes you very uncomfortable. Honestly, I would just tell him that's the dress is too revealing, that it makes you extremely uncomfortable and that you are not going to wear it. NTA 189
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    III-Professor7487 • 1d . This is the perfect answer. ... 15
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    MissMurderpants • 1d Ask her to imagine you in this dress. People will be looking at YOU! Not the bride. 59 ⇓
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    Pianowman • 1d And the gossip later would be ugly. ... 62
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    Agree. mynameisnotsparta • 1d And tell him, unfortunately, you're very uncomfortable wearing that dress you do not like to stick out like that so find something that's a little more appropriate and modest. They can have a vision, but not at the expense of peoples feelings of discomfort. 45
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    III-Professor7487 • 1d I agree. He simply cannot force her to wear the dress, and he should have taken the clue from sister. ... ← До 17 д
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    ZombieHealthy2616 • 1d This. OP, you ARE allowed to set boundaries here. I'd send a message to him, your Mom and Lily with an image of the dress stating:
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    "Okay, while I'm flattered you guys think I can pull off a daring dress like this, as MOHI absolutely do not feel comfortable wearing it. If you insist on this dress vs an alternative with the same modesty standards as the bridesmaids. Here are some options I would be comfortable with. Please choose between them and get back to me on which you prefer and I'll place the order. But I will not be wearing the strapless, backless high slit dress that will prohibit me from carrying out my MOH duties."
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    Then, send links to dresses by the same designer as the bridesmaid dresses that can be ordered in the same pink. Send links of 3-4 dresses you feel would be appropriate and not too flashy. If they continue to put you on the spot tell your sister it would be best if one of the other girls serves as MOH and you will be a bridesmaid instead because you will not be wearing that dress. ... Д 13
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    roro112.1d I second talking to your mom or say to your sis "I hey girl, I know you want to be surprised by the dresses fiancé picked out but I'm pretty uncomfortable about mine! It's very revealing and is SO different from all the other dresses (that aren't revealing at all ). Can I show it to you? I really want to make your vision come true and have the perfect day" Then at least she knows on your wedding day that you had her back and are not going for a attention grab Leave it in her court ...
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    Dear_Blueberry_9764. 1d Nta I'd say talk to your sister and just tell her that you're uncomfortable with the dress. You don't have to show her what it looks like, but tell her that it's a little more revealing than you feel comfortable wearing and go from there. ← Reply 484
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    HippieGrandma1962 • 1d Tell her it's a LOT more revealing than you're comfortable with. 275
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    NTA EllieCrown2 • 1d That dress does not sound appropriate for a wedding. Your BIL is either stupid, creepy or wants to embarrass you.
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    I'm guessing you get objectified often. Even your sister does it with her "hot sister" comments. Don't let other people treat your body like it's not yours. No one has the right to pressure you into doing something that makes you uncomfortable. Because the truth is YOU do not want to wear that dress. YOU do not want to wear a dress that revealing to an event that mostly includes your family. It's not about your sister or what she thinks, but about you having the common sense in knowing what is a
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    Either way, please don't wear something that makes you uncomfortable. If you show up in that dress, people will believe you had a part in choosing it. That is not the good kind of attention. ← Reply 182
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    CaptainBeefy79 • 1d NTA. Tell both of them that you are NOT comfortable with how revealing the dress is. You shouldn't have to go that far outside your comfort zone in order to support your sister. Plus, the whole "hot sister" dynamic they seem to ascribe to you is just ick. Reply 289
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    Vibewith-Kat • 1d NTA. If you're uncomfortable in the dress, that's reason enough to talk to your sister. It's her wedding, and she should be aware if something might make you or her feel awkward on the big day. Reply 240
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    murphy2345678 • 1d NTA. This is giving off creepy vibes. ← Reply 158
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    Temporary_Alfalfa686. 1d And he really has the perfect excuse doesn't he? ← 39
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